Coming out, Part 4

I have to admit the discrepancy between my online experiences (I have experienced very blatant biphobia online), my friends’ experiences, and my experiences in person have both puzzled and pleasantly surprised me. Am I just in a good area that’s very open (I do live in a big city that’s pretty liberal on a coast)? Is it that I make friends easily and am just very social? Is it that many of the GLBT people I’ve come in contact with are under 35, like me, and our generation is much more open about such things? I have heard that there is a generational gap when it comes to bisexuality, and that older people, both gay and straight, get touchier about it. I’ve also heard from friends in this area that have had biphobic experiences, so I guess I’ve just been lucky so far. I am hoping that that luck represents a trend-maybe attitudes are finally becoming more accepting? I try to come across as confident in who I am and in my sexuality and I am always ready to speak up if someone says something biphobic. Maybe people see that attitude in me, and it discourages biphobia?

Coming Out, Part 3

So, how have things been for me since I came out? At first, I felt relief — like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Then came the fear, “oh my God, what have I done, I’m such a horrible sinner, I’m going to hell, etc.” I [not] religious anymore, but I had grown up in conservative religion and that kind of thinking was still part of me. There was also the fear of society. Acknowledging my sexuality opened up a whole new world of possibilities for me — and [they] were both exciting and scary. It was exciting, because now I was free to fall in love with a person, not a gender. It was scary, because I knew that many parts of society expected me to always have an opposite sex partner, and scary because I thought of some people in my life that I really cared about, but I knew would probably never accept it — if I chose to have a same-sex partner.

Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince, Starts July 15

harry potterHolly Batman, eh I meant wand – as we get ready for the exciting sixth installments of the Harry Potter series in “Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince!

As you may or may not know, I also write for the examiner, and I’m doing a full series on personality types of my favorite characters. Yes, I know I’m a geek – I can’t help it! I just love sci-fi and fantasy – doesn’t every self respecting bisexual? Come now! Check it out!

  • Hermione Granger the Purist, in Harry Potter’s Half-Blood Prince
  • Meet Harry Potter’s Ron Weasley, in ‘Half-Blood Prince’
  • Inside the Mind of Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

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Obama’s Identity in Question, Like Bisexuals in the LGBT Community

lgtb communityFrom all the mass biphobia of late, surrounding pop stars and inside your neighborhood

bars, I say we still have a long way to go! It’s sad, that after mountains of proof by no other than the Kinsey Report and our declaration from our very mouths — we still are moving along the lines, that they are just confused or liars! Something our President can empathize with – so in the spirit of a little humor, I thought I would share this great video of Jon Stewart debunking the madness once and for all!

Seems President Barack Obama is still fielding questions, regarding his identity to the top seat in the White House – as Americans around the nation are being fueled on media outlets like CNN and MSNBC with questions and debunking statements, “Is the President a national born American Citizen?”  The question is quit obviously – Yes! But this got me thinking – do people believe there are real bisexuals?

Alternating Bisexual: Amber Rose, One Hot Bisexual

Amber Rose
2014 MTV Video Music Awards at The Forum
Featuring: Amber Rose
Where: Inglewood, California, United States
When: 24 Aug 2014
Credit: FayesVision/WENN.com

I know, call me shallow, but I can’t help it! A bisexual eye candy hottie! Funny thing is she reminds me of a friend I had a thing for along time ago. Yes, this is the woman of my dreams—sexy, in your face, bold and bald. There is something endearing about a tall strong woman—that gets the juices flowing. Where are all the girls like this in Chicago?

Alas, from what Amber Rose has stated on many interviews, she doesn’t do threesomes—men or women and she’s an one-on-one type of girl. Why all the talk in the media about her being a freak bisexual? Again, we are looking at the outside and not the person. Every bisexual is unique and different. We need to start embracing the full facet of our community and own up to the ones we are not so comfortable with—after all, something a rose is just a rose.

Bi fun Fact: Alternating bisexuals can have a relationship with a man, and then after that relationship splits, may find a female relationship, or male, or female. The idea is the person, but they tend to have one-on-one relationships overall.

Daniel Radcliffe Supports LGBT Youth Cause

lgtbDaniel Radcliffe (20-Year-old)—known for the ‘boy who lived’ in the block buster movie Harry Potter has surprised the Bisexual, Lesbian, Gay and Transsexual (BLGT) community—by coming out for kids and teens who are at risk of suicide. In a bold move, Daniel has donated a large undisclosed among of his money to The Trevor Foundation.

It’s extremely distressing to consider that in 2009 suicide is a top three killer of young people, and it’s truly devastating to learn that LGBTQ youth are up to four times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers.

In a statement regarding why he is supporting the Trevor Foundation, Daniel stated, “It’s extremely distressing to consider that in 2009 suicide is a top three killer of young people, and it’s truly devastating to learn that LGBTQ youth are up to four times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers.”

The Trevor Foundation is nationwide suicide prevention helpline that supports at risk youth—24/7 days a week. The Trevor Project also provides online support via their Website, mentors and educational resources.

For more information regarding the Trevor Foundation check out their Website.

Vive la Différence!

Let me say this in case it isn’t at all clear: Women and men are different.  Peter, you’ve finally lost your mind, you may be saying to yourself right about now.  How long did it take you to figure that one out?  Well, it’s not that it took me any time to discover that central tenet of life.  It’s just that it seems that part of being bisexual is that it really doesn’t matter whether you’re dating a man or a woman. Sex and gender are irrelevant.  Only the ‘human qualities’ of the person we’re dating is important.

I feel as if I hear that a great deal. And in fact, I did some rooting around on the net where I found articles from Newsweek’s 1995 “Bisexuality” to the New YorkTimes’ 2001 “Love in the 21st Century; Polymorphous Normal” in which people appear to dismiss the gender of their love objects as only a minor consideration.  If you take a look at the 2008 documentary Bi the Way – and I really wish you would – you will notice that even more than the gender of the love object, but even the labeling is often avoided.

What’s going on here?  Saying that gender is unimportant – like saying the label ‘bisexual’ is unimportant – is in the same league as saying race, ethnicity, class, and a raft of other attributes don’t matter either.

Now, don’t get me wrong; I wish we lived in a society that was free of racism, sexism, biphobia, homophobia, classism and other the other notorious isms.  However, even if we did, these attributes would still be noticeable and have effects on our lives.  After all, we live this life in a physical body, through which we experience the world and hopefully draw lessons.  Even the fact that I am 6’ 4” means that I interact with the world differently than someone who is 5’ 4” or 7’.

Talking about difference – which we so seldom do thoroughly and honestly in our society – doesn’t mean that I think men should be the breadwinners and women should stay home and bake cookies.  That kind of analysis – men are big, strong and courageous; women are kind, shy and fragile – is too simplistic and is in the same vein as assuming that the masculine resides exclusively in the male and the feminine in the female.  We are far to complex to be stuffed in boxes of the sort.

Talking about difference means acknowledging that we all interact with the world in a myriad of ways and that they are valid.  I don’t even know if the word ‘valid’ is correct because the differences just are and to a large extent the interactions they lead to just are as well. For example, the mechanics of physical intimacy will vary depending on the sex of the partners involved.  That’s just how it is; being intimate with a man is not the same as being intimate with a woman.  And I like that.  That’s the variety that is the proverbial spice of life.

Beyond the physical though, I know that as a man I process information differently from women.  For example, like most men I navigate by feel, using more of the visual-spatial and kinesthetic.  Women tend to use landmarks.  (No, this is not a fancy way to say that women ask for directions and men don’t even though it may seem so.)  Imagine the scenarios possible as my partner and I go off for a vacation in the White Mountains. Two different genders, at least two different storylines possible.  Given that I’m involved, it’s probable that both are very humorous!  Humorous, but quite different.

That’s the point though: We’re not the same.  What a dull and lackluster world it would be if we were!  When I use the bisexual label, I mean that I like both men and women and while there certain qualities I find attractive in both – smarts, laughter, political awareness – one is certainly not the other. As they say in France, Vive la différence!

Robert Pattinson in “Little Ashes”

Three rebels willing to take on the world. Two lovers risking it all. One story, untold until now.

One of the most exciting movies to come along is “Little Ashes.” Not only from what I have seen of the trailers — it deals with art, love, war, but also gay andAltering bisexuality content.

The movie takes place in Madrid 1922. A city wavering on the edge of change as traditional values are challenged by the dangerous new influences of jazz, Freud and the avant-garde. Salvador Dalí (Robert Pattinson from Harry Potter and Twilight) arrives at university at the age of 18, determined to become a great artist. His bizarre blend of shyness and rampant exhibitionism attracts the attention of two of the university’s social elite — Federico García Lorca (Javier Beltrán) and Luis Buñuel (Matthew McNulty).

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In the midst of the repression and political unrest of pre-Spanish Civil War, eccentric artist Salvador Dalí (Robert Pattinson from Harry Potter and Twilight) and renowned poet and revolutionary Federico García Lorca (Javier Beltrán) find their artistic and sexual freedom. The two form a bond challenged by their fierce ambitions, their friends, the struggle between a love for Spain and a love for each other.

In 1922, Madrid is wavering on the edge of change as traditional values are challenged by the dangerous new influences of jazz, Freud and the avant-garde. Salvador Dalí arrives at university at the age of 18, determined to become a great artist. His bizarre blend of shyness and rampant exhibitionism attracts the attention of two of the university’s social elite — Federico García Lorca and Luis Buñuel (Matthew McNulty).  Salvador is absorbed into their decadent group and for a time Salvador, Luis and Federico become a formidable trio, the most ultra-modern group in Madrid. However, as time passes, Salvador feels an increasingly strong pull toward the charismatic Federico — who is oblivious to the attention he is getting from his beautiful writer friend, Magdalena (Marina Gatell).  Finally, in the face of his friends’ preoccupations — and Federico’s growing renown as a poet — Luis sets off for Paris in search of his own artistic success.  Federico and Salvador spend the holiday in the seaside town of Cadaqués. Both the idyllic surroundings and the warmth of the Dalí family sweep Federico off his feet. Salvador and he draw closer, sharing their deepest beliefs, inspirations and secrets, convinced that they have found a kind of friendship undreamt of by others. It is more than a meeting of the minds; it is a fusion of souls.

The movie is set to release in May of 2009. Men, ladies — get ready for an exciting exotic ride to Madrid, Spain. I for one will be front and center reviewing the movie for Bi Social News to find out if the bisexual community has a part of this production. I’ll keep you posted!

Rated R for sexual content, language and a brief disturbing image.

 

Little Ashes and Exotic Vignette of Foreign Film

robertBi Social News had a front row seat at the premiere of Little Ashes in Chicago. Can Robert Pattinson play gay in Salvador Dali’s biopic surrealist life? Read the buzz.

The buzz on the internet is “Little Ashes” or Robert Pattinson — can he play gay? Well, from a person who just saw the films premiere, I would saw YES!

The reports are in and the director took us on an avant-garde artistic, erotic surrealistic ride, into a particular time of Salvador Dali and revolutionary and poet, Federico García Lorca (Javier Beltrán) lives – young love. Two men who met at university (Fernando Academy of Fine Arts in Madrid) and for all reflection; were the love of each others lives. For the sheer love of romantic artistry, you should go see this film.

As many artists knows, there are some mental health issues surrounding ones quest for true art form, (yes, I paint, though, I have been blocks for year) and Salvador Dali has that in spades, an eccentric thought process — who as the film suggest “no limits” wanted to explore the world in all it’s flawed pieces and gain perfection in his craft – or as Dali tells it, his genus!

The only difference between me and a madman is that I am not mad” – Salvador Dali, (1904-1989)

The issue in the days of homosexual feeling back in 1922 wasn’t really acceptable, and both characters struggle regarding their feeling for each other to the point of clear depression and madness on the part of Dali. On discovery of his true feeling, he runs straight to Paris with an old friend of Lorca’s, Luis Buñuel (Matthew McNulty) and meets up with Picasso to explore the other side of life. It was hinted women, but not shown. Leaving behind a broken depressed Lorca.

Though, I can’t say the film played Dali as a bisexual– he did marry Gala though, it’s reported that he had some phobia of female genitalia and was a virgin when he met her – on his return, he summoned Garcia Lorca to his enchanted new life, on a request to have his cake and eat it too, (using the bisexual play on words there). Though, in the film his wife was all for sharing their space — Lorca couldn’t believe what he was hearing, and the two never saw each other again.

I won’t say more, as there are other turn of events, the revolutionary war regarding freedom of life in Lorca’s world, to pure madness in Dali’s. Art imitates life after all. Go see it!