Got Bisexual Bars?

So as I go out and look for ways to socialize, I realise that there is nothing made for me — yes, I can go to a straight bar and mingle, or head to my local gay bar, one  block from my house — but I find something missing, someone like me!

I’m not lesbian, I’m not gay – but there are no bisexual bars that we can feel at home. Gay men can go out and find someone like them, and feel some sense of calm. Lesbians can go to their local lipstick, sports bar or everything in between and get their groove on and find that special person.

Where can a bisexual go?

Valentine’s Day: A Personal Reflection!

new yearAs folks are getting ready to get down and funky with their loved ones, lovers and hookups…I thought, I would find the perfect video to share with our readers—the love I have for this holiday i.e., Valentine’s Day.

Because I hate this holiday more than life itself, what better way to share my single lady viewpoint via video! Enjoy this day, if you are coupled up or single!

Singles, go out there and share with the world all your joy and brilliance that makes you, you!

Now go out there and get business with it, with your fine selves!

Couples, go forth and be safe!

Bisexuals Used as Scapegoat in Pro 8. California Case

bisexuals monogomousThe bisexual community can’t seem to catch a break in the year of  “blame bisexuals,” for all BLGT woes, as misleading testimony has been entered in trial of Perry v. Schwarzeneggeron Proposition 8—regarding bisexuals, possibility of being the cause for the threat to heterosexual marriage.

In court documents,“claimed that the evidence would show that Prop. 8 prevents a number of related harms because allowing same-sex couples to marry allegedly would: ….(4) “Increase the social acceptability of other alternative forms of intimate relationships, such as polyamory and polygamy”;

(5) Increase the likelihood that the recognition as marriages of other alternative forms of intimate relationships, such as polyamory and polygamy, will become a judicially enforceable legal entitlement…”

Facts: Are Bisexuals Polygamous in Nature?

No! In fact, having a polyamory lifestyle has nothing to do with being bisexual. Let’s find out what bisexual and polyamory really means!

Dictionary.com states that polyamory means, “participation in multiple and simultaneous loving or sexual relationships.” Which means, that heterosexual couples (married or not) could also be polyamorous. In fact, many straight couples are living the polygamous life style.

Now, dictionary.com also states the word ‘bisexual’ means, “sexually responsive to both sexes; ambisexual.” No were in this define group of words does it say, ‘group sex?’

In fact, It clearly states, [bisexuals] are attracted to both sexes—not together, not in a group or threesome—in clear terms, they like both sexes, period.

Why Do Straight and Gay Groups Alike, Confuse the Two Meanings?

To be clear, a lot of misinformation regarding bisexuals as a whole is out there, because straight, lesbians and gay groups do not understand how someone can be attracted to both sexes. It’s no difference than straights not understanding why gays and lesbians are attracted to same-sex parings. It’s called double standards or simple put, hypocritical at best.

Until both groups, heterosexual, and homosexuals come to the realization that everyone has a part to play in discrimination and acceptance of all groups. It’ll make your fight a little easier down the road, if the bisexual are accepted at face value, meaning we are real. If not, rights for all will be a long and painful process.

What is BSN’s Position on Pro 8?

Bi Social News (BSN) stands clear that we support rights to marry for all, but we also recognize that bisexuals everywhere have problems on both sides of the aisle. As a media outlet, will make no bones about exposing who they are—straight, gay or in between. If you want rights for yourself, figure out a way to be open to the rest of humanity and perhaps one day, the sea will part!

BSN Starts New Format with ‘Bi Talk’ Radio

If you  missed our first co-hosted radio show called “Bi Talk,” don’t despair—it goes into podcast mode after 15 minutes of our live programming, where you can catch all the hot bi topics and dish that was discussed!

Peter Ruggiero and Adrienne Williams are the new bi duo—along with Maria who will be following all the action via chat, to answer your most heated questions and comments!

This is the beginning of a whole new Bi Social News! Why not get in on the action and let your bi voice be heard!

You can also go to iTunes and download our podcast under Bi Social News.

Catch the latest podcast streaming audio right now!

Press Release: Bi Social News Becomes a Global Network

BSN Has Officially Become ‘Bi Social Network’
sexuality. sociability. Community

Chicago, March 24, 2010—As we start to move into social media, connecting with communities and working across national and international lines, I began to think about long term strategies and what I wanted this company to be about. I knew that we were clearly a social media outlet—focusing on entertainment, events locally and nationally; along with personal stories. Yet, moving forward with the bi community, I felt we still haven’t touched on the idea of social community in the form of who we truly are. Yes, we have many activism sites for bisexuality, and we so need this. But to be clear, I wanted more of a community where we can get together online as well as offline. Support each other, support businesses that support us, and yet do more in the lines of sharing ideas, thoughts, stories and fun.

So in keeping in line with this though process, an idea was formed. Make Bi Social News become more! We are happy to announce that Bi Social News has changed its name to Bi Social Network.

sexuality. sociability. community.

In the upcoming days, weeks and months, our members and readers will start to see some changes in what we do. We’ll begin to redirect all our sites with the branding of Bi Social Network, first with our website. Presently, www.bisocialnews.com will now become www.bisocialnetwork.com. Yes, the current site will still exist until everyone is use to the change, but it will be redirected to the new Website. But this notice is to officially have you type in the new Web address starting April 1, 2010 or soon, depending when the changes take place! (I will keep you informed).

What’s our goal?

Well, to be truthfully, we want Bi Social Network to be the hub of all things bisexual. Whether it’s social fun, events, storytelling and purchasing great products—like e-books, merchandise to wear (coming soon) and sharing ideas across the community. We’ll focus on our bi radio show (Bi Talk), have workshops, social gatherings and even networking events. This is the direction that Bi Social Network will move into. We hope you continue to join us!

So sit back, enjoy the upgrades as we make everything official. If something is down for an hour of two, it’s because we are making it better for you! It will be very temporary! We hope you will continue to support us—as we continue to think of great ways to make this company even better!

Bi Social Network is all about sexuality. sociability and community—a great place to start!

If you have great ideas you want to share with us, please contact us and let us know your thoughts. If you want to get great updated information or social events as it happens, there are two ways! Articles on our site—just enter your email address  on the home page and you will be added to our list, where articles will be sent straight to your inbox.

and/or, our mailing list, where we’ll share special events information. Join one or both.

About Bi Social Network:

Bi Social Network (www.bisocialnetwork.com) is the first interactive bisexual Blog and talk radio show (www.blogtalkradio.com/bisocialnews) dealing with sexuality, social events and community. We are particularly focusing on bisexual men, women, teens and social issues surrounding the myths (biphobia) of bisexuality in the gay, lesbian and straight communities. Topics will range in the area of social, entertainment (pop culture) and social events and community, regarding our sexuality in an informational, educational and enriching way.

We also will be the hub of bisexual events across the nation in the form of workshops, networking events and social entertainment.

sexuality. sociability. community. is Bi Social Network.

The ‘Barsexual’ Debate

debateI wish they would just be labeled as straight girls looking to entertain, not bisexuals. So the question is, how should we view this trend? Many bisexual women’s (including my viewpoint) natural tendency is to get angry—we don’t want to be stereotyped, or have our sexuality associated with something fake—that is just done for entertainment. We feel it cheapens the concept of real bisexuality and leads to people saying it’s fake—it doesn’t exist, or it’s just a phase, or worse yet, that bisexuals are sleazy opportunists and bisexual women are nothing more than sex objects. It only adds insult to injury to hear that many of these barsexuals say they’re really straight, or so the story goes, anyway. I’ve heard several bisexual female friends say “I wish they would just be labeled as straight girls looking to entertain, not bisexuals.” I most definitely sympathize with that frustration, as I’ve felt a lot myself when hearing about this, but recently I’ve been thinking and have begun to ask myself: are all these girls really just “straight fakers,” doing it for attention? Or could some of them be bisexuals who just are not giving people the best impression of bisexuality, or just coming out, or people who came out,  as in this example? Or could some of them be questioning and unsure of their orientation and questioning [their sexual identity]?

To quote Adrienne Williams, founder of Bi Social News: (See Types of Bisexuals)

Bisexuals come in all shapes and sizes, and what’s okay for some isn’t okay for others. If girls are going around kissing girls in bars—it could mean they might be a different [type of] bisexual than what you think bisexuals are—the scale does slide after all.

That statement really made me think, and it makes a good point. While I definitely don’t doubt that there is a sizable chunk of these “barsexuals” who are straight, it wouldn’t surprise me if some of them did turn out to be bisexual, or emerging bisexuals. We see this trend in porn movies too—while sometimes the “girl on girl” ones made for men will be just straight women doing “gay for pay”, there are bisexual women involved in that kind of work as well. And as much as both instances might make some of us cringe because it’s really not giving the rest of the world the best impression of bisexual women, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are not bisexual—if they are, they are, whether they express it right or not. Should we automatically label them “fake bisexuals” just because we don’t like how they express it? And who gets to make these rules anyway?

Part of the problem with this is that bisexuality still isn’t accepted nearly as much as it should be in either the gay or straight community. In the gay community too often it’s considered a phase or nonexistent, and in the straight community—especially with women, it’s used for entertainment or titillation. So naturally, most bisexuals understandably are not going to want something that adds to negative perception to be associated with them. I will say I’m glad people have given this trend its own word.

Personally, I’m not sure what to think? Being in the bisexual community has taught me to look at the grey area in a lot of issues—which is why I’ve tried to express both sides above. I wonder, how many of the people who get into these situations are questioning or even bisexual,  but I also can’t help but wonder how many are just straight girls playing into the trend.

So I am leaving this article open-ended and am asking you—our readers: What do you think, and why? How does the bisexual community feel about this issue? What has been your experience? Please feel free to post a comment, wherever you see this article, or to send me an email at bisocialnews@gmail.com. If I get enough answers, I’ll write a follow-up summarizing them. This is one issue we should be talking about!

Bi Social News: Wishes Our Readers a Happy New Year!

happy-new-yearBSN want to thank all our readers and members that come here every day, week or month to read up on the latest bisexual information—whether it’s entertainment, news, bi candy or politics and opinion, we are happy and honored that you continue to stand by us as we grow, change and reach into 2010—which will be even better!

BSN Partners with Center on Halsted
Our goal is clear; we envision bi programming on a national level. 2010 brings even more great exposure, as BSN has teamed up with Center on Halsted that will be chalked with bi events threes nights a Month in Chicago. This is a huge undertaking, and COH took a leadership role in making sure bisexuals will be counted in 2010 and beyond. We are happy that BSN will be a partner in this idea of showcasing more events around our fair city, and as we show the world—that the “B” really matters in the LGT community. If you live in Chicago and would like to help make these events happen by volunteering, please drop me an email at bisocialnews@gmail.com. Together we can make a difference.

The Bisexualist Road of Debate
Whether you are for bisexual or an ally, this moment is important. We might not agree on every idea of our lives like Obama and DOMA, if Lady Gaga is a great bi role model for the community or where the BLGT movement should be going in 2010—but our voices do matter and should be heard nonetheless—which ever the position. Our interactive Blog gives us this platform. We are always looking for Bloggers and Columnists that want to reach out, give back to the community and share their voice. Come join us!

Supporting the Bi Community
I have stated this before, the Lesbian and Gay community support, sponsor and give back in ways of volunteering, donations and time. BSN is no different! If you want bi programming to continue, though our content is free—it takes time, money and passion to keep this going. If you noticed we have a new tool where everyone can give a subscription donation [on the home page] to the cause. We are a for-profit company, so any amount will go into helping our current writers write, helping us gain more dynamic writers. Keep out site moving in a positive direction and giving you more products, Bi radio, a store, interviews, and beyond our imagination. The road is only going to get wider—we need your help to get there!

As we more into 2010, I can’t wait to get started and continue to move bisexual content into the 21 century! From all of us at BSN—may you have a happy and safe New Year!

Adrienne Williams

Founder of Bi Social News!

Being Thankful For The Bisexual Community

Man Consoling Girlfriend --- Image by © Image Source/CorbisUnfortunately, with all the setbacks the BLGT equality movement has had lately, much of the community news has been dwelling on the not so great news. So for Thanksgiving, I thought I’d write a bisexual version of “What I’m thankful for.”

First of all, even though I can’t really be out to my family, I’m thankful for the people I can be out to. I have many great and supportive friends, acquaintances, and colleagues of all orientations that have really been there for me when I’ve needed help and guidance, much like a family. I’m thankful that I came out of the closet, and that I had people and places to turn to. I’m thankful for the growing bisexual community, that is really starting to stand on its own, both as a part of BLGT culture and as its own community. I’m thankful we have websites like Bi Social News, and organizations like BinetUSA, The Bisexual Resource Center (BRC), as well as many others across the country. I’m thankful for all the bisexual social and support groups in the USA and all over the world, and that many more are springing up and starting to network. I’m thankful for my co-writers on this website and for BSN in general, for bringing together great ideas and having filled a much needed niche in the bisexual community. I’m thankful that I’m able to devote time to writing and furthering the cause for our community — something I truly love.

I’m also thankful our community is coming together to have our own bi-themed entertainment [supported on our homepage], more out bi celebrities, more young publicly out bi actvists,  movies about us, out bi politicians, our own conferences, writers groups, books, magazines, and professional groups. I’m thankful we actually have an entry on Wikipedia about our community that keeps getting longer as our community gets more active. I’m thankful for the Internet itself — as cheesy as that probably sounds, because it’s helped us to organize and network so much. I’m thankful for all the great bi and BLGT writers and activists I’ve met while participating in writing and activism. I’m thankful that I got to march with the bisexual contingent at the National Equality March; it was truly an experience.

I’m thankful that even though we still have a long way to go, overall tolerance for and acceptance of BLGT people is rising, especially among the younger generation and it seems in the entertainment industry with more out queer characters. I’m thankful for blogs and organizations such as Queers United, GLAAD, and NGLTF, as well as many others that include bisexuals along with everyone else on the spectrum and stand up for us when there is biphobia and bisexual erasure. I’m thankful that LOGO is finally starting to include more bisexual-themed entertainment. I’m thankful that both bisexual women and bisexual men are finding their voices and fighting back against the stereotypes, biphobia, and bisexual erasure in both the BLGT and straight communities, and that especially in the BLGT community, it is growing increasingly more unacceptable to bash bisexual and transgendered people.

I’m thankful that the city [that] I live in has a thriving BLGT community that is pretty accepting of bisexuals and I hope this happens in more cities. I’m thankful that I live in a country where I can (for the most part) express my sexuality freely and the government isn’t going to throw me in jail or kill me (let’s hope it stays that way!) I’m thankful that coming out of the closet has enabled me to look at many things, especially gender issues, with a much more open mind and to see the grey area in most situations instead of just looking at the black and white. I’m thankful we (hopefully) have an administration that is finally going to help us and pay attention to us.

And last, but certainly not least, I’m thankful for you, all of our readers!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

Maria,

BSN: Celebrating a Year of Bi Programing

coupleI want to take this time to thank everyone who has made Bi Social News (BSN) what it is today. December 1, 2009 will be our first year anniversary (wow)—I had to check the Website domain expiration date on that one! But I can’t believe we’ve come so far!

Moving Into a New Direction

Our readership has grown from 198 hits a Month to almost 10,000 and growing! It’s because of your commitment to see more bisexual content, news, entertainment and hot topics that are keeping us moving in the right direction.

We have received many emails thanking us, wanting us to go farther, hit heated topics, more bi radio programming, more bi activist interviews, more bi entertainers and just more in general. We heard you and 2010 will be packed with all that you asked for. BSN is an interactive Blog—but more than that, it’s a place were we focus on entertainment news, social issues, politics and everything in between. It’s about people, ideas, removing bias about teens, bi men, women, people of color and everything which says—bisexuals don’t exist!

Why Does BSN Exist?

When I started this project, I wanted to go to a place where I read and connected to topics which concerned me and our issues. Why were the Lesbian and Gay communities removing themselves from the bi community? Why, when I went to a gay or lesbians bar, it felt like I wasn’t wanted or welcomed? Why are bi men discounted, dismissed and disowned? I created this site for you, for me, for all of us to counter the media that is coming full steam ahead that we don’t exist!

Social Status

We started a social media network on facebook, twitter, myspace and pinterest.  We’ve been featured in great BLGT communities like Logo, BiNet, Bi Women Boston and Queer United, who started it all for BSN and gave us a shout-out! (Thanks!) We started back on track with Bi Talk Radio and started partnerships with Fence Sitter Films, Queer/Bi Meetup andCenter on Halsted (COD) (2010, more to come on COH) Thanks for supporting us!

Thanking the Many

The job is big, the need is great, and BSN is ready for the challenge—but I alone didn’t get here all by myself. Without the great work of our Contributing Writers—Peter, Maria, Adam and others who are about to come on board in the next few weeks, I want to thank you! Your passion for thinking outside of the box, your commitment to seeing BSN grow and become something bigger than yourself is a testament to your drive for the cause and your need for change! I love each and everyone of you! With your help, bi-erasure will soon be but a distance memory.

Thank you interviewees, the sponsors now and in the future and last but not least, thank you for your readership each and every day that you come to our little world and learn something new and fresh on our sites! We love you, and keep coming back, share our articles with others in our community and anyone that are supporters. Support bi writers, and movies, events and companies that cater to the bisexual needs! Shop on bi sites, (like this one, see BSN Store) and give back by donating to groups like this and others that can’t do it alone! You want bi programming (See Donate button on top)? Help everyone by keep it all going!

Mata ne… (Until next time…) “Speak out. Live out. Voice out. Be heard.”

Adrienne Williams
Bisexualist, Founder, Web Producer
BSN

BSN Celebrates Bisexual Day: Move into Activism

happy-bi-daySeptember 23rd is Bisexual Day? What are your plans to celebrate — and how can you move into activism?

As a new and upcoming bisexual site, I’m so happy to say that “we’ve come a long way baby!” Our goal has been clear from the start. Try to expose bi news more to the main stream—including lesbian and gay Web sites. We are happy that this day is a national event!

The History of Bi Day, was it Really Needed?

The account of “Bisexual Day” started back in 1999—by three bisexual rights activists named Wendy Curry, Michael Page, and Gigi Raven Wilbur. In a quote on Wikipedia, Wilbur was stated,

Ever since the Stonewall rebellion, the gay and lesbian community has grown in strength and visibility. The bisexual community also has grown in strength but in many ways we are still invisible. I too have been conditioned by society to automatically label a couple walking hand in hand as either straight or gay, depending upon the perceived gender of each person.

Bi Social News (BSN) whole-heartedly believes this declaration. Our whole mission and why we started BSN was to take back our voice—clearly without fear and continued labels to diminish our voice in the gay and straight communities.

When even one bisexual can’t say the word, it decreases our voice and stops our power, to be exactly who we are—bisexuals.

BSN mission is clear—we won’t run from it, dilute it, and cover over it, under and around it. We won’t escape from it—change the meaning of it and appease it! This is our day—my day! Seize the moment to stand up and be counted in the land of every person, race, nationality, sex and gender that goes boldly into the night proudly on their particular belief—are you?

This is the moment to speak up regardless of what team your family or friends are batting. This is the time for every teen to come to terms that they are neither gay nor straight—and are still proud to be apart of the full community. This is the time to speak out to every BLGT community that “will not” show more visibility for the “B” in LGBT! This is the time to raise your voice when others in “our” community speak against the bisexual boy, teen or man who has not come out as gay—thinking there are no real bisexual men! This is time to speak out—without fear that it’s not a “phase” or you are not trying to be cool. This is a time to speak out for the nullification of bisexual erasure in all communities. One voice, clearly, loudly and without fear—I’m bisexual!

Why Does BSN Exist?
BSN feels that there needs to be more representation regarding the bisexual community. BSN feels that many are demising their voices; because of fear of the term “Bisexual or Bi” due to the unfavorable connotation that it brings any given individual. We are proud to be associated with the term and will use it without fail to state the nature of our voice. Though, we welcome all—regarding content and news worthy stories—this site is a bisexual site, and we are so proud of this fact, and glad to be apart of the full spectrum of our community.

Your voice is our voice; your cause is our cause. “Speak out. Live out. Voice out. Be heard.”