Bisexual Ball Players Sues Gay Sports League of Biphobia

ball-playerI’m in the middle of our Bi Talk show and I’m handed information in the form on an email on Advocate.com, about three bisexual ex-players (LaRon Charles, Steven Apilado and Jon Russ) who are suing the North American Gay Amateur Athletic Association (NAGAAA) on the bases of not being gay [enough] from the other gay teams; or as they (The league) called them—three heterosexual men.

The sad thing is that the three men repeatedly stated they were ‘bisexual and not straight.’ When asked by (NAGAAA) officials, what sexual group they batted for, one player stated, “Both.” The victim decided not to reply after an off-putting response from NAGAAA.

“This is the Gay World Series, not the Bisexual World Series.” North American Gay Amateur Athletic Association (NAGAAA) officials

Should Bisexuals Continue to Partner with Gays and Lesbian groups?
Talk about biphobia on the home team! So now, I again ask this question, should the bisexual community be apart of the gay and lesbian groups—who continue to want equal rights from the straight world, but will not recognize that bisexuals are real and alive in all society? Nor do they even understand the errors of calling bisexual men straight, as heated discussions are flying on Advocate.com, about being straight and not apart of the BLGT community.

Lindasusan states on Advocate.com:

Why do people keep characterizing these men as straight when they identify as BISEXUAL? (The heterosexual label was put on them by the NAGAAA panel.) As someone pointed out, NAGAAA’s own mission statement includes bisexuals — this is clearly a case of biphobia and bisexual erasure.

I say this, as I take a quote from Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. I will fight for gay and equal rights for my gay and lesbian brothers and sisters to get married, when they own up to the fact that bisexuals know who we are and exist in their world!

So much for the LGBT tag line!

Bi Social Network will be following this story as it develops.

Read the full article on advocate.com

Share your thoughts. What do you think of this story? Should Bisexuals continue to be apart of the gay and lesbian community? Are we beating a dead horse? We want to know!

Take Me Out to the Ballgame

ballgameWhen I moved to the Boston area some six and a half years ago, I knew that I’d have to stop discussing baseball.  Those who grow up as Yankees fans know it’s rather pointless, if not downright foolhardy to talk about the national pastime right in the middle of Red Sox Nation.

I for one decided it was far better to keep my normally fat mouth shut regarding the boys of summer.  However, I have elected to break my silence because of a recent piece of news that dropped into my inbox a little over a week ago.

The National Center for Lesbian Rights (see NCLR press release here) has filed suit against the North American Gay Amateur Athletic Association (NAGAAA) on behalf of three bisexual baseball players on the San Francisco D2.   The players  were questioned about their sexual orientation and subsequently disqualified following the 2008 Gay Softball World Series in Seattle.

According to the article “Ballplayers Sue Gay Softball League” by Andrew Harmon of The Advocate, it appears that the three players, LeRon Charles, Steven Apilado and Jon Russ, were deemed “nongay” by the NAGAAA.  Furthermore, the only choices the players were given during their questioning were “heterosexual” and “gay” when it came to describing themselves.  Charles, as stated in Harmon’s article, maintained that he was attracted to women and men, which the NAGAAA committee did not accept.

Are you still with me?
I was incredulous to say the least.  The NCLR press release, The Advocate article, and the response by the NAGAAA (see the organization’s open letter at outsports.com) left me with my mouth hanging open.  Digesting this information took a while.  I had no idea where to go with it.  I have to admit that my first reaction to friends was rather sarcastic.  It seems last year we were lying homosexuals and this year we’re deceitful heterosexuals, I quipped.

What gives?  Really, what gives?
It seems to me that as bisexual men, our so-called true sexuality—that is when people patently ignore the words I’m bisexual as they come out of our mouths—depends on the convenience of others.  For writers such as—but not limited to—Dan Savage and Michael Musto (see my post from March 24th of this year) , we are straw men to be bashed and trashed, because we are lying to ourselves and others about our supposedly true natures.

We are also fodder for scientists as Benedict Carey’s 2005 New York Times article, “Straight, Gay or Lying? Bisexuality Revisited” demonstrates.  Apparently no matter what we say, think or feel we really don’t know who we are.

But wait.  If we want to take part in activities within the BGLT community, we mustn’t take places away from those who are authentically gay.

It seems to me that other people’s agendas define who we are.  If others need us  to be gay in order to get their point across, then we’re gay.  If others need us to be straight to satisfy their agenda, then we’re straight.  That is what angers me.  It is positively maddening to be at the mercy of others and to feel like a pawn in their games.

It makes me want to holler, break down and cry
I can’t imagine what bisexual men have done to deserve such disrespect.  I can’t imagine because the answer is nothing.  We are just living our lives.

It’s high time for fair play for bisexual men, on the field, in the boardroom, in academia and on the street.